Castle 5.11

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Remember the emotionally charged cases that shaped the first season or two of Caste? Under the Influence was such an episode.  A DJ named Holly is found murdered. As the team begins to piece the case together, they learn that on certain gigs, Holly worked with a young man nicknamed Monster, whom Castle calls Cookie Monster, because of his age. He is a high school who has been working for a man named Shane, who at best is a mob boss. Monster, whose name is Joey, has been skipping school and getting involved in other questionable things.

This is one of those episodes when we don’t worry too much how whether or not they will get the bad guy, because we know they will. The investigation sets up to give us a chance to learn more about Esposito. The relationship that develops between Esposito and Joey reminds me of the relationship with Dick Tracy and the Kid. Esposito finds himself caring deeply for Joey. He goes the extra mile to take him in for a night to keep from being shipped to another foster home.  Even when Joey escapes through a window in Esposito’s place, Esposito still makes the teen a priority.

Esposito hits on what so many churches are missing these days. Churches for some reason expect young people to just come to church and to be “good, little Christians.” But, without wisdom guides and mentors. Young people need adults in their lives who will love them as they are, not as they think they “should be.” As Kenda Creasy Dean has pointed out for years, a partnership between adolescents and adults provides adolescents a means to be part of the broader Christian community. And isn’t that we want?

For so long the church has drawn an invisible line between “us” and “them,” the “saved” and the “unsaved,” the “adults” and the “youth.” Dean Borgman writes, “We often fail when we try to drag them into our world, teach them our values, and share our faith in our cultural way. It is we who must make a radical jump across class or culture to enter another world.” Jesus was the mode for this. Jesus did not draw lines between him and others. He erased the line. He did not drag others into his world, he entered theirs, and loved them where they were.

Eposito models this for us in this episode. If groups of people – or the church – did what Eposito did more often, our churches would be flooded with young people answering God’s call upon their lives.

Little Town of Bethlehem

“As for you, Bethlehem of Ephrathah, though you are the least significant of Judah’s forces, one who is to be a ruler in Israel on my behalf will come from you.” (Micah 5:2a, Common English Bible)

Here is a look at the story of Jesus from the perspective of modern day Bethlehem.

Prayer requests directly from a youth pastor in Newtown, CT

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We are all still reeling from the school shooting that happened this past weekend.  This afternoon, I had the privilege of talking with a youth pastor from Newtown, CT.  He works with children and teenagers in his community just minutes from where the shooting happened.

There was a lot that he and I talked and prayed about.  Here are a few of the prayer requests that he said that I could feel free to share.

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A post regarding prayers for a youth pastor in Newtown, CT. Please take a few moments to read and pray.

Thankful for . . .

Something I’m thankful for is our youth group.

Recently, the youth group at Peakland UMC went Trick-or-Treating-So-Others-Can-Eat.  One Sunday they left bags with flyers explaining what was needed by Rivermont Food Pantry with about 85-90 homes near the church.  The following week, they went back on a “hayless hayride” to collect any bags that were left out on front porches.  Some family homeowners brought their bags to the church.  All together a total of 45-50 bags were collected.

Rivermont Food Pantry was so impressed with the huge collection of Thanksgiving-esque food, that they sent an email out this week to other churches and individuals telling them what our youth did and encouraging other church groups to do something similar.  The email went on to say that a Kroger order was placed, as it is every year by Rivermont, to fill the 48 Thanksgiving Bags they do each year, and thanks to the collection by Peakland Youth, their order was much smaller!

A few Saturdays ago, our youth went to Parkview Mission to help them with cleaning and other renovations.  This is what Glenda Fort, the new Executive Director at Parkview had to say in an email that was sent out to Lynchburg District leaders and clergy:

What a pleasure it was to have . .. youth from Peakland.  These young people sorted and bagged the coats collected and we will begin distributing them soon.  Surplus school supplies were packed and sent to Bass Elementary and UMCOR.  250 pounds each of onions, sweet potatoes, and carrots were bagged and distributed.  Donations were shelved, brush and branches were picked up and disposed of and cleaned up when they were finished.  It may have been a “just one day” mission effort but I sincerel  hope that these fine kids will bless Parkview again in the future.”

Just in the last few weeks, our youth have made a difference in our community that has left an impression on others in the community, some we have never met.  I hope you join me in being thankful for these young people who so willingly gave of themselves.

Power of Introverts

In this excellent TED talk, Susan Cain discusses how introverts bring talents and abilities that are extraordinary in their own ways to the table. She calls for the freedom to let introverts be themselves. She makes great points regarding education and “group work,” with implications for youth ministry. The talk is about 20 minutes long, so settle in and enjoy. I invite you to be conversation on this talk by leaving comments below.

Theater Shooting of 2012

This week, what is now been coined by one news network as “The Batman Massacre”, a former PhD student from the University of Colorado entered through an emergency exit and opened fire on movie goers.  The movie was The Dark Knight Rises.  The suspect was cloaked in a gas mask shooting first into the air, and then directly at people.

This has been called a senseless tragedy.  And, no doubt, in the context of youth ministry, there will be teens and parents alike who will have lots of thoughts, questions, and observations about this tragedy.  Here are a few ways in which you can be in dialogue with students and parents.

Pray.  Pray for the victims and their families.  Encourage your students and parents to be in prayer.  Also, pray for the suspect and his family.  It is so easy to see this shooter in a negative light. Help your students and parents pray for this person by modeling this kind of prayer. (Matthew 5:43-48) The Dark Knight Rises struggles with the fact that evil or good, we are all still human.

Be available and listen.  Let students and parents know that you are available.  If you have a Bible study, small group, or youth group scheduled, consider using that time to open up the floor and let the students share what they think.  Let them tell you how they feel.  Let them tell you what they experienced when they heard the news.  Let them tell you what they think of it.  Adolescents who experience violence – far and near – carry a heavy grief, as Dori Baker points out, “that seems to have few outlets.”  Often times, we go into “make-it-better” mode.  Instead, create a space where adolescents have an outlet to express their fears, their hopes, and their dreams in the midst of this tragedy.

See the movie.  If you are going to engage your students about the film, go see it first.  Don’t rely solely on movie reviews – secular or religious – see it for yourself and mode your own opinion.  There have been many a Sunday mornings in the Sunday school hour where I have spent talking with students about the movies they saw that weekend.  It was the movies I had seen too that I was able to really engage with them.  Don’t make it about the big-bad-media.  Keep the students engaged in what they experienced while at the movies.  What did they like the best?  What could they have done without?

Find theological themes.  When you go to see the movie, watch the film through the lenses of theological reflection.  Look for theological themes and when talking about the film with your students (in a structured or non-structured way) ask them about the themes you noticed and what they think about that.  For example, all the Batman films tend to dwell in darkness and the chaos that lives there.  In addition, The Dark Knight Rises lends itself to theological conversations about rising above tragedies; are sinful people worth saving; finding hope in the midst of despair; commitment to do good. If you see the film as a youth group outing, afterwards ask your students which character they were able to relate to and why.  Ask them what theological themes they saw in the film and present yours.  Ask them where they saw God in the film.

Hope. These “where is God?” questions can open the door to talk about where is God in the midst of tragedy.   How does God’s mysterious presence offer hope in a situation like this? One of the themes of the Batman films (especially The Dark Knight Rises) is finding hope in the midst of despair.  How do your students define hope?  How does your church and/or tradition understand hope?

Finally, these words from liberation theologian Gustavo Gutiérrez: “The Biblical God is close to human beings, a God of communion with and commitment to human beings. The active presence of God in the midst of the people is a part of the oldest and most enduring Biblical promises.”

Youth Retreat Memories

The other weekend I was the speaker for a youth retreat that was held at the Methodist retreat center in Blackstone, Virginia, which for years has been simply referred to as “Blackstone.”

This was a humbly experience, in that for years I had gone to retreats at Blackstone as a youth.  I would have never imagined as a teenager that one day I would be standing where I was.

As I watched my youth group hang out in the Carroll Room, I was reminded of my first Blackstone retreat and meeting other students who would become great friends.  As I hung out with my students in the stairwells of Blackstone, I was reminded of all the times I sat on those green steps and talked way into the night about faith, relationships, and the challenges and difficulties of life. This place fostered friendships that have lasted to this day.  Friends that I know I can go to when I’m in trouble; when the storms of life are raging.

Quite possibly, though, I was reminded as I stood on stage the “God-moments.”  Moments that would lead to expressing a call to ministry as a United Methodist minister.  Moments that would lead to a deeper relationship with Christ and would equip me to discern my call to ministry.

What are your memories of this place?

Stories Printed

This month a new book by Dori Baker, a former seminary professor of mine, is being released.  It is called The Barefoot Way: A Faith Guide for Youth, Young Adults, and the People Who Walk with Them. In this book, Dori invites young people and leaders to step out on a 21-day journey of experiencing God.  Dori introduces in the book a methodology she calls “L.I.V.E.” that can be used solo or communal to exlore the stories of God encounters.

The book features stories collected by Dori from young people and youth ministry workers, including two written by myself.